goals+that+motivate

Discuss principles for goal setting. Goals should be…. Brainstorm areas of your life to set goals
 * In groups** discuss why most people fail to set &/or keep goals


 * On your own** Choose 3 areas & set some goals


 * ‘**how’** will I achieve the ‘what’ (goal) ||
 * In groups discuss** the terms in the ‘success map’

Identityè values è  goals è  action plan ê Motivation è discipline (**personal needs & involvement**) ê
 * principles, purpose, convictions, ideas, beliefs ||

Flexibility è outcome

Why is outcome at the end & not goals?

In your personal life gaols should be an extension of your values- then life becomes meaningful & exciting gaols based on your values make it easier to set priorities. Goals should be specific : health, wealth & happiness are to vague. How can you make them more specific? Goals should be written Goals should be challenging but realistic Visualise the small details of your goals to enter your subconscious more easily. Reward yourself- no not with chocolate!

Goals: this year 3 years Eg To………………….. ………………..by………………………….by…………. Verb (action word) + subject (standard eg %) (date/ deadline) personal

financial

study

career

other Priority goal 1:


 * List all activities that will work towards this, number them by importance || Who/ what can help you accomplish them || Target date ||

Priority goal 2: Eg To………………….. ………………..by………………………….by…………. Verb (action word) + subject (standard eg %) (date/ deadline)


 * List all activities that will work towards this, number them by importance || Who/ what can help you accomplish them || Target date ||

The above activities are mini goals that are the steps towards your desired outcome.

Select an activity & break it down into smaller tasks. Use the SMART goal formula below.

Smaller goals (steps): 1. understand format, structure & requirements 2. Write with appropriate language and clarity 3. Edit and proof read for clarity, logic, spelling & grammar. 1. Understand format, structure & requirements for a formal academic essay
 * Eg - Learning plan goals- eg to write an academic essay/ report by the end of term 1 **
 * Specific || understand format & structure of formal essay ||
 * Measurable || Look at several examples form net & books ||
 * Achievable || Research in class time & library ||
 * Realistic || I will need to look at 3 or 4 to understand ||
 * Time || 2 weeks ||

Motivate yourself and others through positive feedback!

Some of general wants & needs: Love & acceptance Approval of others Involvement with a group/ community (sense of belonging) Feedback (from job, work, personal performance etc)

Setting goals & action plans alone will not ensure gaol achievement. What else is required?

Remember our discussion earlier about Stimulus è time/ choice è  response

How much will your choice depend on the following: morals, values, positive feedback, rewards, Positive consequences, excitement, comfort level?

Positive reinforcement / feedback is a high motivator. Therefore **if you want to change your behaviour- change the consequences**!

Eg
 * List some behaviours** that you don’t like of your self/ others/ children, list also the consequences & think of some positive consequences.
 * Behaviour || Current negative consequence || Positive consequence ||
 * Nephew won’t shake hands/ introduce self || Awkwardness with guests || Ask others to greet him warmly, shake & introduce ||

Therefore hopefully, if he sees the positive response that he gets from people when he acts like an adult he will also be treated more as an adult. I.e get others to ‘play the game’ until he becomes comfortable with initiating it himself.

When was the last time you gave someone a compliment or positive feedback? Why/ when, what did it cost? What was the outcome?


 * Discuss** giving compliments what is appropriate/ not appropriate? What is the most common type of feedback & how does it make you feel?


 * Discuss** what motivates you?

Motivation: the inner desire that keeps you always moving forward in spite of discouragement, mistakes & setbacks.

Common motivators: Fear (of reprimand/ punishment), incentives, create a change in personal attitude, fulfilling personal needs.

Personal needs, values & beliefs are the ‘intangible’ emotional feelings you seek ti fulfil through work, family, community.

Intangible= indefinable, non physical


 * 8 basic personal needs that motivate:**
 * 1) Belonging: what/ who do you belong to?


 * 1) Achievement: reinforces self esteem, demonstrates competence. List yours & celebrate!


 * 1) Advancement: continually expand your personal & professional skills knowledge and abilities. List yours…


 * 1) Power: with knowledge & ability comes power. Is power negative?


 * 1) Responsibility: with responsibility comes respect. List yours…


 * 1) Challenge: feeling challenged to grow mentally& emotionally can motivate. List your challenges….


 * 1) Recognition: let others see & celebrate your achievements together. List yours & who you celebrate with


 * 1) Excellence: doing a job/ task well. List yours….

These are just a few suggestions of motivators. There are hundreds of books & websites on motivation.


 * Write** about your tools/ tricks for motivation.

Role play some examples
 * Discuss**: How do you give positive & constructive feedback?

Feedback from others gives you perspective in areas that may be your blind spot.

Before you give feedback: Feedback can provide motivation for personal, academic, spiritual and professional growth if it is offered & received in a spirit of genuine concern & helpfulness.
 * 1) Paraphrase (check back) that you have understood what they have said/ done & why
 * 2) Do you have an appropriate relationship for the type of feedback
 * 3) Is your feedback appropriate in words, time, context, intention…
 * 4) Is your feedback sincere & positive?

Giving feedback:
 * Be descriptive: the more detail you build into your positive comments the greater the impact. Don’t simply say ‘good job or well done’ take the time to explain why.


 * Focus on behaviour: not the personal traits. Not ‘you’re a nice or observant person’ but ‘you really take the time to listen and understand your kids/ customers/ family’


 * Try to put it in writing: then it can become a keep sake & long lasting that they can show & share with others.


 * Make your praise timely. Promptly


 * Praise regularly: as with children catch them being good!


 * Make short descriptive praise part of your communication process


 * Activity:**
 * Write and give some praise for the people in your family & class mates today!**


 * To be motivated you need to be involved.**

Discuss the TV advertisements by local councils. They ask people to ABC Act Commit Belong

What do they mean & why?

Informed involvement in planning, implementing goals & problem solving leads to effective motivation. Have you ever discussed your family goals with your children, find out what’s important to them & get them to work out an action plan & goals? Dreaming ha?

Believe in yourself & positive thoughts Overcome fear Build on failures & mistakes Start now. procrastination? What happens/ why & how to beet it? time management Welcome challenges Take pride in achievements Visualise success – let your self dream! Be flexible Rewards
 * Discuss** the following with reference to your motivation & strategies/ tools for staying motivated.

How do you get it/ lose it/ is it painful?!
 * Discuss**. What is self discipline?

We all have the freedom to choose!

Take responsibility for yourself & all the parts of your life that you have control & choice over. Review your priorities Start small. Chunk your tasks/ action plan Work to your morals/ values/ ethics/ conscience Identify time wasters & work on time management Work smart: plan ahead, chunk, work at peak times & rest…
 * Discuss**: What are your strategies for the following?

Describe your feelings & what you said to yourself?
 * Flexibility how do you respond to change?**
 * Write**: How did you feel when you came to TAFE & found they worked on a different version of Microsoft Office?

Change is constant & unavoidable Change creates fear People tend to resist change


 * Discuss** some positive outcomes to change?

An opportunity not a problem Choices: do nothing & let change happen **to** you or make it work **for** you Change is normal & positive Re- evaluate goals & action plans Use knowledge to kill fear

Discuss again now the differences between goals & outcomes: Your outcome should be consistent with your identity & values Your actions should support your outcome Sustain motivation to reach outcome Stay disciplined Take pride in achievements & celebrate Learn from mistakes turn into a positive statement No blame Set another outcome Life is growth