deciding+tools

What makes you happy? what maters to you? What do you want, why do you want it and what are you prepared to do about it?

try the DECIDE strategy Define a particular problem Explore options Carefully consider consequences Identify values Decide and act, and Evaluate the outcome talk to others to hear a variety of options and possible outcomes trust your instinct your health & happiness & the the ones you love are your priorities

Things we can change & things we can't complete the table

CHANGE @ MYSELF || THINGS I CHANGE @ MYSELF || WHAT AM I GOING TO DO? ||
 * YOU || THINGS I CAN'T
 * appearance || height ||  ||   ||
 * fitness ||  ||   ||   ||
 * personality ||  ||   ||   ||
 * temperament ||  ||   ||   ||
 * character ||  ||   ||   ||
 * beliefs ||  ||   ||   ||
 * values ||  ||   ||   ||
 * dreams ||  ||   ||   ||
 * goals ||  ||   ||   ||
 * skills ||  ||   ||   ||
 * abilities ||  ||   ||   ||

what is the difference between character & reputation do choices affect each?

RATIONALISATIONS we try to explain our or others behaviour with rationalisations. Sometimes people see these as 'good' reasons. People often give one or more of the following as justification for what they do. Do they sound familiar? __Can you see an alternative perspective__? People expect me to I couldn't help it It was my life It wasn't my fault I had to do this It's part of my job It's for a good cause I was doing it for you I was just fighting fire with fire No one was hurt Everyone was doing it I didn't get anything out of it It was a learning experience I had it coming I was being objective

__making decisions__